Can you go the distance...

This month seems to be the month of departures.

First it was berty, then VO, and soon it will be Paupau.

It is a strange feeling to ask someone when they are coming home again, only to hear them answer in all seriousness, "I don't know".

Makes you think about all LDRs, not just romantic ones, but relationships in general, no? That just being apart from someone you care about, can never be easy.

So what makes some people go through with them and not others. Does it make one a bad person if they can't have one, or a better person if they have survived one? I mean, on the one hand, it can be argued that being able to sustain a LDR shows that you love with an intensity and purity that can withstand the hardships of different time zones and lonely days. Of not having the dearest person to you at those crucial moments, be it to kill a lizard above you on the ceiling keepin u awake, or to celebrate the closing of your first deal for that new job. So many moments, so many misses. But how about the flip side of it, maybe there is no intensity, maybe it just takes a certain type of person, someone independent perhaps? Someone who doesn't need that type of intensity of seeing their better halves everyday or so. Perhaps even, it may indicate that they dun really love with an intensity, they just want to know that there is someone there for them, even if they dun realli need to reach out to them.

Some of my frens have even said that it takes getting used to when they are finally in the same airspace, how odd, that this is someone they are in a relationship with, yet they need to get readjusted to them. Like jet lag.

I dun realli know if I can do it realli or which category I fall under. Have never personally had an LDR, I guess it's one of those situations where you can't really give an honest opinion till it's staring you in the face. But I'm sure it takes alot of effort, patience, understanding and strength. So if I dun miss the presence of the person, does it mean I can live without him, or does it just mean I can handle it? Or if I can't deal with him not being around, does it mean I love him madly and deeply? I don't know, but I know that I dun miss him, not realli at least, not with an intensity that upsets me. Kinda like an afterthought rather. So all we need to forget realli, is time , alot of distance, restricted airspace and ah, yes radio silence. Yes I thinkI like that.

I am however, missing a 3am chat buddy and a last min dinner n lunch kaki and of course my fellow kao bei kia. haha. Oh well, but who am I to stand in the way of true love, so here I am wishing you and Tamster all the best! And you better have an extra room for me to crash when I go round to visit!